Well, the most useful threads I know of are here:
http://www.linuxformat.co.uk/index.php? ... pic&t=6438
As I said, I'm no Linux expert, it took me a few tries to get it right. For anything involving linux, google is your new best freind!
The key was, once I got the default display size listed in the screens and graphics section, to just put my own resolution in xconf in the same format as the rest (mine came out as something like "1280x00@60" or the like, you'll see what I mean when you'r ein xconf), without messing with the rest of the file.
This took me three tries to get right, and I couldn't tell you what I did exactly, sorry. But this thread helped.
If you can't see the toolbars at all after installation, you likely have the screen set TOO big. move the mouse up or down and hold it and you'll probably see the screen begin to scroll. This means you have your virtual display too large for your monitor. Just go a size down till you can sort it out.